Morning Motivation: October 31, 2012

Happy Halloween!!

“In difficult times fashion is always outrageous.”

-Elsa Schiaparelli






Video: VanJess, “90’s R&B Medley”


I’ve featured the young ladies that make VanJess on my Tumblr tons of times, but it’s Friday, so let’s have some fun!!! I hope these videos add some 90’s sunshine to the dark and ugly signs of Hurricane Sandy to all of my fellow North Easterners.

Songs included:

Montell Jordan – This is How We Do it

Aaliyah – Back and Forth

Blackstreet – No Diggity

Mack Morrison – Return of the Mack

2Pac & Dr. Dre – California Love

TLC – Creep

Songs Included:

Zhane – Hey Mr DJ

Spice Girls – Wannabe

TLC – No Scrubs

En Vogue – Hold On

Dr Dre & Snoop Dogg – Aint Nothing But A G Thang

Be Extraordinary- Alyssa Peacock

Fly On The Wall: Guest Writer: “Tips Of The Relationship Trade”

I have never claimed to be a know-it-all when it comes to relationships because I don’t. Fact is, I am struggling to figure out the whole  male/female dynamic myself. But I have been a woman my entire life, and I know exactly what goes in the female psyche, and I can help those in need, I will.

I have enlisted the help of one of my dearest friends, Brittany B. (Twitter: @PinkdBubbles), to provide some advice to the Mars’ inhabitants.

Brittany writes:

Dearest men…I’d like to come forward and say that women aren’t as difficult or complicated as we seem. We are adapting to our present circumstances (your behavior) in order to stay afloat. If your behavior didn’t present itself as so difficult or complicated, we could both be frolicking in the meadow of love without a care in the world. But of course, that’ll never happen unless you listen to me.

Yes, your whole entire journey to that meadow lies solely on your ability to follow directions. LOL

I’ve comprised a few (ok, more than a few) tidbits that you should avoid in order for you and your partner to begin that voyage to the meadow.  

“Coddled…No Cradle”

 Despite how much you’d deny it, men love to be pampered like babies. You seek women that will provide a carbon copy version of the solace emanating from your mothers’ womb.  

 Case In Point: I knew a guy who required a tummy rub to fall asleep. I’m sorry…how old are you? So essentially, it is safe to assume that you must have someone in your bed regularly in order to sleep.

Million Dollar Question: If I’m not around, who is rubbing your belly, Buddah?

 Word of advice: Stop being a baby and sleep on your own, otherwise you’ll never sleep with me.

“Tit for tat…on my terms.”

 Everyone knows the, “if you do it to me, I’ll do it to you” portion of the dating game. Men are light years ahead of women in the emotional Olympics, yet deem it unfair when Karma gives them the well-deserved swift kick.

Case In Point: Not sure if it was the moon shining over the Indian Ocean or the African Aphrodisiac (aka, 4 Hakuna Matata’s) from the bar, but I became incredibly aroused and had sex with one of the guys on the trip (For the record, this was not some random guy; we were very familiar with each other). After I got what I needed, I politely stopped the motion of the ocean and went back to my room (1 Point for me!!!). I had no interest in waiting for him to “get his.” When he wanted to become a friend with benefits with the expectation of monogamy, I whipped out my Guy Card, and avoided all methods of communication.(2 Points!!!). He was one unhappy camper.What’s the big deal? Not saying I am trying to be like a man, but how often does it happen to women? Hmm? Huh? What was that? Can’t hear you! Oh, that’s what I thought.

 Word of Advice: Women are just as sexually liberated as you are, and understand that this does NOT make her a whore. Still devastated over the woman who did the same thing to you? Two tears in a bucket. Get over it. I guarantee you or one of your friends has done the very same thing to a laundry list of girls. You know what they say: Do unto others…

“Do I hear a ring? And I don’t mean on the phone.”

 Pay attention. This is important. When did it become trendy to mention the Almighty next steps without a plan of execution? Do not mention the “R,” “M,”  or “W” words while in a relationship unless you’re ready. Havoc will fall upon your life. Haven’t caught on yet?

“M” – Marriage.

“W” – Wedding.

“R” – Ring.

 Mentioning these three words (whether together or separately) at anytime during a relationship, or rather, while dating, sends signals of hope to a woman’s brain, pulsate through her veins, and land in her heart. She sets in her mind that you are looking for longevity and, if she’s lucky & loyal, it will be her. She goes into Super Girlfriend mode and you, naturally, take full advantage of Superwoman’s powers. The moment you renege, you burst her bubble, turn her hopes into falsity, and cause her to turn into super villain Bitter B!tch ala Ne-Yo’s “Libra Scale.”  You are not playing a game of spades, but you are playing with a person’s heart.

 Case In Point: Three year relationship, three words used, and three ring shopping appointments…no ring…just a three second breakup. See the pattern?

 Word of advice: Simple: Don’t do it.

“Red Light Special”

 When done correctly, sex is a beautiful thing!!! It is even better when props are incorporated into the event.

 Case In Point: I was involved with a track star from California. He and I were friends that decided to add benefits to the mix. One rainy night, he decided to spice it up a bit by adding a little ambiance to the setting. With one flick of a switch, the room turned Red and Usher’s “Seduction” was pounding through the speakers! Cheesy? Yes. Did I love it? Yes. I can’t listen to that song without thinking of the red room. He was channeling Christian Grey before Mr. Twitchy Palm was ever thought about.

 Word of Advice: Change it up guys! Don’t worry about being corny or what your boys might think…Never kiss & tell.

 “Say what you mean, mean what you say.”

 Nobody likes a liar. Women despise liars more than menstrual cramps and bugs. Do yourself a favor & stop doing it. We would prefer you to tell the truth at all times, even if you think it’s going to hurt our feelings.

 Case In Point: Met a guy. He was fine. Almost too fine. We hit it off. Had a lot in common. I told him I was taking a sexual sabbatical. He said so was he. Yet every time we were alone, he tried…and tried…and tried to get me out of my clothes. I had enough and when he realized his attempts were failing, he lost interest. Wait. Didn’t you say you weren’t interested in that? What happened?

Word of Advice: Stop lying and be honest. Scratch a liar, find a thief. We would respect you more if you made truth telling a habit.

Fly On The Wall: Staring Contest- Part Un, “All In The Name Of Charity”

These posts are well overdue. I had one of the worst stare offs in my life end recently & I believe things could have gone differently if someone gave my Mr So&So some advice. Guys listen, staring at a woman for prolonged periods of time is weird. But if you insist, there are certain actions that will prove successful. I will impart my latest occurrence upon you with the hopes that, through my incident, you will know better so you can do better. No names will be included in this article. I will break down this entire scenario into parts, dropping major knowledge so you can win The Staring Contest.

Part Un: “All In The Name Of Charity”

I attend lots of Greek (Fraternity and Sorority) events partially because my mother is in a sorority and partially because I have a ridiculous amount of friends in these organizations. First encounter with Mr. So&So was at a scholarship fundraiser I attend annually hosted by my mother’s chapter. This particular year, So&So happened to be in attendance. Admittedly, I had a huge crush on him when I was in high school. High School has come and gone, and I’m so beyond it. Over the course of the evening, rounds of people asked for pictures and autographs with him, offered their resumes, and named dropped.

Yet, on one than more occasion, I caught him staring at me.

Is he looking at me? 

Note: In a woman’s mind, a guy staring at her can only go two ways: Flattering or annoying.

WhyTF is he looking at me? Can I help you? Hmmm, maybe he’s interested. I hope he doesn’t think I’m going over there. Plllleeeeaaasssse, I’m a lady. I don’t subscribe to that groupie life.

My mind ran the gamut ala Usain Bolt.

I decided that the high schooler in me was making me hallucinate. I scolded my inner girl for causing such an internal ruckus. But his staring was so excessive that even other people sitting with me began to take notice.

My aunt, unaware of who he was, asked the purpose of notoriety. After explaining who he was and that he was my little adolescent crush, what does she do? She beelines over to him & discloses this information!!! Everything told me to high tell it out of there, but the skyscrapers attached to my ankles denied me of my freedom. He proceeds to tell her I should introduce myself, but by this point, I felt a little groupie like and incredibly uncomfortable.

You want more gratification? More than what everyone in this place has already given you? Pllllleeeeeeaaaasssse. I am not about that groupie life. I am not about that groupie life. I AM NOT ABOUT THAT GROUPIE LIFE!!!

In my embarrassment, I proceeded to put him out of my mind and enjoy the rest of my night.

At the conclusion of the evening, I helped with cleanup and prepared to make one more walk through before going home. As I turn the corner, I CRASH into no other than So&So himself. Scarlet Red embarrassment wells in my face.

Why God? I’m so not in the mood for this foolishness.

Note: Women are creatures are embarrassment. It’s our arch enemy. You win points with us if you can minimize it.

As he helped me off of the floor, I noticed he was holding me a little longer than necessary.

Ok, this is happening. What should I say? If he doesn’t say anything I am just going to thank him and leave.

“Thanks for catching me. Goodnight.” As I catch a glimpse of him behind me, I notice he’s still staring.

Yea, he wants it. He’s going to have to come for it because I am not about that groupie life.

Moral Of The Story: Women are scared to death of looking overly anxious or yearning. She may be equally as attracted to you, but if you hold a position of authority or power, she may not approach you. Not because she’s intimidated or a coward, but simply she doesn’t want you to assume she is easy. You hold all of the cards. Step up.

Part Deux: “Daytime Delirium” Coming 11/2/2012

Be Extraordinary- Alyssa Peacock

Trailer: The Carrie Diaries

Fans across the world have been waiting with bated breath for the arrival of  “The Carrie Diaries.”

If you are like me, and still watch reruns of Sex and The City over and over, fear not!!! Your new dose of Carrie-isms is on its way. The trailer for the prequel to the successful HBO series and movie franchise  shows a goofy, too cool for school Carrie, played by AnnaSophia Robb, as she returns to high school after the death of her mother.

Love lost, new loves gained, and an undeniable love for Manhattan are all on the menu for the young Bradshaw.

Without giving much more away, here’s the official trailer for, “The Carrie Diaries.”

The show is set to air January 2013 on the CW network.


Be Extraordinary- Alyssa Peacock

Teaser: In The Circle- THE DREAMS OF NEWARK

Sneak Peek

It always bugs me out how my voice sounds recorded versus what I think it sounds!!!

LOL Anyhoot, here’s a very special teaser for Season 2 of “In The Circle: The Dreams of Newark.”

Will you be watching?

Be Extraordinary- Alyssa Peacock