Another day, another escapade that lines the fabric of my love life. *sigh*
So, my goal this summer was to build what I am calling The “All-Star Team” Project. Before you judge me (#effyourjudgment by the way), allow me to elaborate.
So I know lots of women that disprove of the notion of treating men like they are expendable. “They are humans,” “you could be treating the one like the few” and other declarations of the sort have trickled into my ears so much lately that I am constantly tipping my head to rid myself of flooded ear canals.
Nobody is expendable. Everyone has purpose. Everyone has a life that is meaningful.
HOWEVER, everyone is not to be taken seriously just because they enter your life. Some people are simply fillers in time. That is their main purpose…for you. They satiate a void. And that’s all. And frankly, I like to keep my options open and not give all of my time to one person that may be gone in an instance.
Plus, considering the fact that I am not ready to enter into a new, committed relationship just yet, I need choices and really get to know someone as best I can (do you ever really know someone?) before plunging back into monogamy. I need time to be single and alone, not lonely. And to be completely transparent, I don’t want to be responsible for someone else’s feelings right now.
So my intent this summer is to build up a brand new little black book, the 2013 edition (I strongly suggest everyone in general clean out their phone books periodically. I am sure there are people you haven’t spoken to in at least a year. Make room for new friends and new adventures). Thus The “All Star Team” Project was born.
In my mind’s eye, the “All Star Team” would consist of a Starting Five and a Bench Five.
Now I know it sounds like a lot. And it is really hard meeting someone almost equally yoked to you. But nothing is impossible, right? Right?
The Starters are gentlemen callers to which provide a great deal of date night activities for me. These are the guys I communicate with daily, are prime prospects in various aspects and to whom I am sincerely attracted. Of all of my ten, these guys are the ones with the strongest potential for the long haul.
Then you have the Bench. These fine fellows I am also attracted to, but understand that nothing can come of it. They are excellent text buddies, ego boosters and “harmless” flirts (shoutout to the N.B.F. of the world. I see you!!!). Yes, all of this sounds shallow. So what? When you first enter “energy transactions” with people, everything is shallow. You are attracted to the way they look. The way they compliment and complement you. It’s shallow so let’s not play coy, okay?
And this isn’t to say that Starters can’t become Benchers (not a word at all but for all intents and purposes, can we pretend it is? Thanks.) and Benchers can’t upgrade to Starters. Hell some of them can become lifelong friends. But ,the goal at this point is to meet new people and if so possible, a new mate.
But as of last night, I am back to square one with ZERO on my roster. Not because I have no game, but because I have no love for foolishness. Not interested in your faux pas religious and sociopolitical outlook that you are convinced is the end all that is all. Not fond of men that show minor interest. Sir, don’t waste my time!!!
So back to the drawing board I go. Oh yea, joined another online dating site for a month. Please pray for me. The struggle is so real. Stay tuned for that.
So what do you think of the “All Star Team” Project? Ambitious or Foolish? Tell me what you think in the comments section below.
Be Extraordinary- Alyssa Peacock